Women Who Use Their Masturbation Style In Partnered Sex More Likely To Orgasm, Says Study
I admit, making a woman orgasm isn’t as easy as making a man come. But that doesn’t mean that in partnered sex, we just give up on it, right? I would still expect my partner to put in as much effort as needed to make me moan in pleasure. I would want him to take care of my needs – be it in terms of foreplay or simply tracking my pleasure points. Or there’s always masturbation.
And yet, how many women go through an orgasm-less spell? It can be frustrating when you have no difficulty in getting aroused but when it comes to reaching the peak of your pleasure, you feel like someone pulls you down each time you feel you’re about to reach the top. And that can be annoying AF. Why is it that so many women struggle with orgasming? I used to as well, before I got to know my erogenous zones a little better.
This is why any kind of research that gives an insight into female sexuality makes me put my beer down and really pay attention. Ladies, let’s get to the bottom of this and take charge of our pleasure so we can reach our full potential when it comes to it. I do have a strong feeling that female sexuality is an ocean of possibilities and we are capable of feeling so much more pleasure. So why stop making things better?
A recent study explored the link between masturbation and partnered sex and found some really cool insights. According to the study, synchronising masturbation with sex can lead to better orgasms and lower orgasmic difficulty. “The issue is relevant because sometimes masturbation by women is “prescribed” as a way of improving orgasmic probability during partnered sex. But masturbation has also been hypothesized to interfere with orgasmic response during partnered sex,” said study author David L. Rowland, a psychology professor at Valparaiso University.
“Many women, perhaps as high as 30-40%, experience some-to-great difficulty reaching orgasm during heterosexual partnered sex, particularly if the primary form of stimulation occurs through penile-vaginal intercourse,” Rowland revealed. At the risk of giving out TMI, I don’t feel PIV sex is enough for most women to come. Yes, I have heard some women say that they can climax from it but the number is rather small. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and surprisingly, that’s how we like to masturbate too.
But can masturbation cause trouble with partnered sex? “The rationale for the first hypothesis is that women who learn and know their pleasure points are more likely to find ways to orgasm than those that don’t; the rationale for the second hypothesis is that women who use stimulatory techniques for masturbation (e.g., vibrator, or strong direct clitoral stimulation) may find it more difficult to reach orgasm during partnered sex because the stimulation from intercourse does not simulate the stimulation during masturbation,” Rowland said.
The study confirmed that most women opt for clitoral stimulation to orgasm during masturbation. However, the participants also revealed that they prefer using their masturbation method in partnered sex too. Say for instance, I know I can come by a certain method so I would want my partner to use it to do me. Our brain kinda gets accustomed to a particular rhythm and way that leads to us orgasming. So it would definitely help if your partner takes the same route.
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“In and of itself, women who masturbate experience no particular advantage or disadvantage insofar as reaching orgasm during partnered sex. However, women who show greater similarity between the behaviors/techniques they use for stimulation during masturbation and the type of stimulation that occurs during partnered sex report lower orgasmic difficulty than women who report disparate stimulation techniques during these types of activities,” Rowland told PsyPost.
Similarly, women whose masturbation and partnered sex techniques don’t match tend to prefer DIY orgasms. “The results iterate the importance of the woman’s communication with her partner regarding the types of stimulation that will most likely enhance her probability of reaching orgasm, often simulating techniques that may be used to reach orgasm during masturbation,” Rowland said.
While at it, researchers also found a link between relationship satisfaction and lower orgasm difficulty. “Not surprisingly, relationship satisfaction is a key variable in understanding the above results. In general, women who are more satisfied with their relationship with their partner tend to have lower orgasmic difficulty,” Rowland explained. He further added, “This relationship is likely bi-directional. Women who have greater sexual satisfaction during partnered sex enjoy the intimacy with their partner, thus enhancing their relationship. At the same time, women who have a better relationship with their partner are likely better at communicating their sexual needs to them, thus increasing their potential for arousal and orgasm.”
Moral of the story? Discover your pleasure points and orgasming style and teach your partner the same!
