Women Reveal Flirting Techniques That Always Work
Honestly, I have no idea whether I have a legit flirting game or not. Usually, I just awkwardly avoid a person I find attractive and try to not look at them. Because if I do, it’s written all over my face that I am attracted to them. And I want them to come and talk to me, so in a way it’s good. But I also want to abort mission and run away.
If I am on a date with a guy I like, I think I end up flirting with them effortlessly. Like I said, it just shows that I am interested. I will just smile a lot, laugh on their shitty jokes because I am blinded by their sexiness, and I just blush like a teenager. Then there is this ‘I know you know’ eye contact, which breaks with a chuckle. I think my pheromones just keep things in motion when it comes to dating.
Flirting doesn’t guarantee that your romantic encounter will lead to something more. But it does help in establishing that spark between you both, so there’s at least a chance of having some thrill. Otherwise, without flirting, you can get friend zoned or lamp zoned.
Now, flirting with someone doesn’t mean you should want something from them. Sometimes, it’s just a boost to your ego. You meet someone at a party, flirt a little, enjoy the attention and possibly not even exchange numbers. It’s possible you will never meet again, but did you have fun that night? If you’re single and enjoy the attention, don’t let them tell you a woman shouldn’t flirt.
So when someone asked the women of Reddit what their best flirting techniques are, they got candid about it and explained how they get their dating lives going.
A good conversation doesn’t fail
“Banter. I find it charming if we can go back and forth and have a good conversation, sprinkled with witty one liners and free of offensive/vulgar remarks,” a woman revealed her secret! Another woman added, “Engaging: keeping the conversation going. Smiling. Joking. It’s sounds weird but just relaxing. I find guys are more attracted to someone who can hang. Someone who can be their friend and attractive.” Another lady added, “Act interested in everything they say. Ask follow up questions and lean in excitedly when they’re talking. Don’t be too over the top either.”
Eye contact is sexy
“Eye contact when being spoken to,” a woman wrote. Personally, I find eye contact irresistible! I will never date a person whose eyes don’t have the depth I am looking for. Like if my soul doesn’t feel touched with your stare, and if I don’t get just a little wet when you make eye contact with me from across the room, I don’t want it. Guys love eye contact too!
Making the first move
“I guess by default, my best – and only – flirting technique is straight up telling them about my interest. I would worry about my hints not being picked up on and I don’t like leaving room for confusion, so being direct about my feelings has been much more effective,” a woman wrote. However, another woman said being a little vague helps save your face! “Kudos to you! Ambiguity is a defense mechanism by which if you get shot down you can always claim “oh I wasn’t serious or I’m sorry you took it that way”. Being up front honest puts you in a more vulnerable position but it certainly cuts out the BS and gets you closer and faster to what you are looking for,” she advised.
Sweet gestures
“If I know the person, my favorite is the “just because I saw it in the store and got it for you”. Like a bag of plantain chips, because you mentioned you liked them 3 months ago or one of your favorite flower, that you mentioned like a year ago. Mundane items,” a woman wrote. I mean, I am not sure about that, unless they are actually close to you. Otherwise, it’s like you are trying too hard.
Smiling at them
“I smile a lot, smiling is attractive,” a woman claimed. Well, not in a creepy, Annabelle kinda way though. But flashing your smile at a guy you find attracted is a great way of flirting with him. This encourages the other person to open up and feel more confident to talk to you.
Giving compliments
“I pay compliments but in a kind of a joking way so it’s not super serious, but they could feel somewhat better,” a woman explained. Another woman added, “I always comment on their appearance after I read that most men don’t receive compliments. Then I do something about their personality. They deserve to feel special and be built up too.” Guys deserve compliments too and if you give them one, they shall remember. I bet he will think about it for weeks to come.
Breaking the touch barrier
“I love an arm touch – briefly at a table, slightly prolonged while going through a door or towards a table, leaving my arm for them to do it back if they liked it. Arms are hugely underrated, I’ve got butterflies just thinking about them,” a woman expressed. “Oh, you have some lint on your shoulder/arm/back, let me get that for you…” Maybe they do, maybe they don’t. But now the touch barrier has been breached. ;) I like this better than outright touching someone’s arm, back, etc. because it’s a playful and kindly form of positive attention — social grooming; letting out your inner primate,” another woman agreed. Well, if you are also a little awkward to that, you will relate to this woman. “If I feel slightly more comfortable I will touch their leg with my leg when we are sitting. Probably laugh a lot. At the same time I have an impulse to run away,” she wrote.
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Be playful
“I see how they handle my sarcasm. I’m very sarcastic and blunt sometimes so I like seeing how they react to a touch of that,” a woman wrote. Well, it does make sense. Flirting is fine but I don’t want a boredom machine who just wouldn’t get playfully sarcastic! “Playfully making fun of men is effective almost 100% of the time in my experience. Couple that with smiling and laughing at their jokes and it’s pretty much a guarantee,” another woman is a big supporter of playfulness. I love me a man that can flirt and be playful while at it!
