This Woman Reached Out To Her Exes And Asked Them What Went Wrong. Would You Do It?
Just the other night, my best friend and I were talking for hours over call because it’s not like we have a lot to do. Plus, that’s the only social interaction we had in the entire day. Since we weren’t in a hurry to hang up, she asked me a question that needed an in-depth analysis of things. She asked me that after all my breakups, have I figured out what went wrong in each relationship? With that began a long discussion over all my past relationships. My best friend has been with me through all of them and she too gave her two cents about each relationship.
We may have found a pattern that I need to break and what I need to do, to have a dating life that doesn’t feel as bad as a pandemic. But at the end, the data is collected just from one side of the fence. However, if you suggest I go talk to my exes…I would say hell no! I am not opening a can of worms here. Plus, I may be friends with a couple of them and would like to keep it that way.
However, this woman here decided to brave up and ask each of her ex why it didn’t work between them. 19-year-old university student Rebecca did this to be able to work on herself while she has the time to reflect and introspect. “The people who have experienced the worst of me are definitely the most qualified to tell me what went wrong and how to improve. It’s worth a try to see how I can be the best me I can be,” Rebecca told Mirror.
She was as bored as the next person and I decided to make use of this free time. “Plus, I really didn’t have anything better to do – I was just so bored. Waiting for them to reply was terrifying, but actually everyone was really nice – there’s no hard feelings there. It gave me a bit of a reality check – it’s so easy to just block someone out of your life,” she explained.
When it is rather mutual
Jay, one of her exes who she broke up with last year told her, “After thinking it through for a while, I guessed you probably thought that yes I’m nice and I look after you, but that you aren’t getting the most out of someone you should be fully committed to.” He further added, “I don’t believe you made any wrong conscious choices, and neither did I.”
The one who didn’t see it coming
Tim and Rebecca were friends before they began dating. But back then she was confused about her sexuality and broke up with him a day after giving him some romantic gifts. He told her that he was taken aback by the suddenness of it. He felt that Rebecca got bored of him.
The one with constructive feedback
She then asked her first kiss, Ed. They still talk and share a cordial relationship. He didn’t shy away from giving her honest feedback. “One, confidence. Two, you could have been a bit more passionate, a bit more affectionate. And three, you just could have shown a lot more enthusiasm for the general experience of it all,” he said.
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Rebecca encouraged people to go talk to their exes and ask them for feedback. I mean, it’s a good exercise considering they must be as unoccupied as you right now. But do I want to make my head heavy with all that criticism? Not in quarantine! Not when I can’t go out and get a drink. But if you can, it’s a great idea!
