Ladies, Avoid Doing These 7 Things During A Fight With Your Boyfriend

There are two kinds of couples in the world. The ones that put up everything on social media, and the ones that simply aren’t on any social platform. But, making cutesy faces on Instagram or not, there’s not a single couple in this world that doesn’t argue. There simply isn’t. Don’t get fooled by Instagram’s #CoupleGoals, differences of opinion are bound to happen. In fact, they are healthy. But what’s the secret to a long-lasting relationship? No, not leaving or not having no fights at all, but fighting fair. At the end of the day, you love each other. If your relationship fails, it will hurt both the partners, no matter who is at fault. In fact, it’s almost always both the persons at fault.Hey, we can hear you say, ‘Not me!’ Don’t let your fight with your boyfriend get dirty. Here are 7 things that you must absolutely avoid in a fight with your SO.

Don’t include others

The argument is between you two. It’s not a community debate. While you may feel the need for emotional support during a fight with your SO, turning to your squad will only add more voices (and often biased!) to the debate. Keep your family and friends out of it. Two grownups should be able to sort their issues on their own, right? Yes, adulting isn’t always fun.

Don’t threaten to break up

A loud, vicious fight can often feel like this is the end of things and that you can’t take it any more. Then, when your anger has subsided, you realise how trivial the issue actually was. Threatening your bae with a breakup will only make it difficult to trust you, even after the fight is over. Instead, remind yourselves that you love each other and are willing to resolve the issue.

Stick to the point

You’re angry, insults have been thrown, it’s already ugly. Don’t make it worse by digging out an argument you had ages ago! For example, if it’s about them not giving you enough time, stick to that. Don’t start reminding them of every single time they got late, they didn’t call you etc.

Don’t ignore their side of the argument

Yes, they are annoying but remember that you both are on the same side. The goal of your argument should be to understand each other better and eventually arrive at a solution. It’s not a contest you need to win. Hear them out without interruption, and try your best to understand how your actions made them feel.

Don’t hide your feelings

During a fight with your boyfriend, we are prone to feel vulnerable, and in our defence quickly hide our feeling. This can lead to you clamming up, withdrawing into your shell. This is counter-productive. Instead, be vocal and expressive about how they made you feel. Use statements like ‘It hurt me’, or ‘this made me feel uncared for’.

Don’t abuse them

Any sort of abuse, be it physical, mental or emotional should be completely off limits. This also means no name-calling or humiliating them at any level. At the same time, don’t be a victim of abuse yourself either.

Don’t discuss things when you’re angry

Words spoken in anger are often hurtful and do more damage than good. Save yourself the regret and discuss things after you’ve calmed down. Taking some time out to reflect, that will help you streamline your own thoughts so you can have a more mature discussion later.