5 Things You Need To Know Before You Have Sex For The Very First Time
All of us start fantasising about the first time we will have sex long before it happens. We build up scenarios – think of the ambience, the music, our outfits that will inevitably be stripped off. We fantasise about the person who will become our first, someone we will always cherish no matter what happens with them after. In our fantasy land, having sex for the first time is idyllic. Except, in real life, it is often not! But fret not. That’s just the way it is, and it is okay!
Keep your fantasies intact, but also keep these five things in mind if you’re all set to do it for the first time.
1. It probably won’t be that great.
It takes time to figure out your body, what works and what doesn’t. Very rarely do women orgasm the first time they have sex with someone. In fact, it can actually be clumsy and kind of blah, especially if your partner is also a virgin.
2. It’s okay to use lube. In fact, stock up on it before you get down to business.
We would, in fact, recommend that you lube it up the first time. Get one that also helps in arousal, but make sure it is ISI marked.
3. Try to have fun with it!
The key to good sex is being relaxed and enjoying yourself. Of course, the first time you do it, you will be nervous. But that doesn’t mean you can’t keep it light, and have fun in the process!
4. You may or may not bleed.
If you have an active lifestyle, you may have already broken your hymen. So, you won’t bleed. Sometimes, it’s just spotting that happens. It varies, and really, anything is okay. But, if you find yourself bleeding a fountain, then maybe go see a gynaecologist!
5. Condom, condom, condom!
Nobody can emphasise this enough. Pro tip: Keep extras just in case it rips, or you want a second, third, or seventh round!