8 Important Things To Know Before You Have Sex For The First Time
Doing anything for the first time comes with a lot of nervousness…and questions! We don’t want to walk into anything without knowing what to expect. Unless you’re living life on the edge. If we’re so meticulous about other things in life, how can we dive into bed with someone new blindly? What if you’re looking for widely different things from the sex? Or worse, what if he gives you gonorrhoea? That can’t be good. Which is why, you must ask these 8 questions before you get it going with that cutie.
Is this your first time?
If it’s the first time for either or both of you, there are a lot of things to keep in mind. From the positions that work well for beginners to psychological blocks, discuss it out.
Do you have an STD or a sexual disorder?
Orgasms, relaxation, intimacy – there’s so much we want out of sex. Sexually Transmitted Diseases, we don’t want. If he has had multiple partners before, it’s better to ask when the last time he had a checkup. As they say, better safe than sorry.
Will you carry condoms?
Okay, at the risk of sounding preachy, condoms are indispensable! Which is why, you must have a discussion about the method of protection beforehand. Let him know your stance on the method of protection. And decide well in advance on who will be carrying it. Systematic planning!
What kind of relationship do we share?
It’s not to put him in a spot. But it’s important for both of you to be on the same page, whether it’s casual or serious. Is it friends with benefits? Do you take it slow and see where it goes? Discuss it and understand if you are okay with the setting.
Is this exclusive?
Tomorrow if find him on a date with another girl, you might just throw a glass of water on his face, calling him a cheater. On the other hand, the dude hadn’t even promised any exclusivity. To avoid such unfortunate misunderstandings, discuss if you’d like to keep it exclusive or not.
What are your fantasies?
He wants to be Batman in bed, turns up in a rubbery suit and everything. You, on the other hand, want to be Dothraki’s Khaleesi. No problem with that. But let each other know beforehand! Fantasies shouldn’t be kept as surprises. One person’s turn on can be another’s turn off!
What are the things you don’t like?
You’ve always hated giving oral action and you don’t want to disappoint him…in advance! Similarly, if there are certain things he dislikes, you should know about it. You both shouldn’t feel pressured to do something you’re uncomfortable with.
Are you willing to try…?
So you’ve been dying to try doggy style, ask him if he’s up to it. You’ll also be able to gauge how open he is to experimentation.