5 Signs You Need To Take A Break From Dating
Until a couple of years ago, I have been on a dating spree going from one relationship to another with very little downtime. Even when I wasn’t in a relationship, I went on so many dates like I want to make a career out of it. Okay, no that sounds very wrong. But my point is that I have been a serial dater until I just decided to slow down.
None of this satiates me. I dated my ex for a few months after being completely single for a year and now, I am back to being by myself again. Not looking for love, not cribbing about being single. Okay, sometimes I crib but I don’t really mean it. I have volunteered to take a sabbatical from dating and I feel it’s one of the wisest choices I have made. Dating sabbaticals are great and help you heal and grow. But how do you figure if you need one? Here are 5 signs!
1) You haven’t been single for a long time
If you’ve been a serial dater like me, maybe it’s time to take a break and be on your own. I don’t know for better or worse but my last ex was so absent that I was pretty much single. So I learnt to be independent and do things alone and with joy! Take time out to work on yourself and doing things you love. A boy will come along when he has to.
2) Your ex was an energy vampire
Did your last relationship make you feel drained and like you were losing motivation? You stopped focussing on yourself and all you felt like doing was stay in bed. These kinda boyfriends are energy vampires and if you’ve just dealt with one then you’re in need of recharging your batteries. Rejuvenate before you spend energy on dates.
3) You’re constantly cribbing about being single
If you’re not happy being single, it means you’ve not been single long enough. There are stages of learning to feel complete on your own. And it takes time. So allow yourself time to go through every stage – the initial frustration to acceptance to making the most of it!
4) You feel you’re one bad date away from becoming a nun
You probably signed up on a couple of dating apps and realised people go there to commit relationship suicide. There may be good guys but I don’t know where they’re been hiding. So many bad dates later, masturbation suddenly sounds so much fun! Take it slow so you don’t become too cynical towards dating.
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5) You don’t even know what you really want
When we don’t know what we want, we go with the flow and welcome anything and everything. Take a break and introspect. Do you want a relationship or something casual? Or maybe just lots of single time. Figure it out before you swipe left!