5 Reasons You’re Not Getting Turned On Enough And Here’s What You Can Do About It!
It can be really frustrating when you want to want sex, but it’s just not happening. You’re in it, but halfheartedly. You’re getting wet but not as much as you used to. The worse is you don’t know why this is happening. You have spent hours on the phone with your best friend discussing how you’re not turned on enough. Orgasms seem to have disappeared from your life and it feels like you’ve lost a friend…a very, very dear one. Fret not, here are 5 reasons why you aren’t able to get turned on and what to do about it.
1) You’re stressed
Bae and you have a sex date planned for Friday night and the excitement is super high. But your work schedule over the week has sucked the energy out of you – not just physically but also mentally. You end up feeling underwhelmed about sex, when it’s actually time for you to let your hair down! Stress is a major factor when it comes to loss of libido.
Solution: Take it easy. Identify the source of your stress and work on it. And before you plan a sex date with bae, rest and rest. In fact, how about starting your sesh with a nice, sensuous massage?
2) You’re feeling under-confident
We are so conditioned to feel insecure about imperfections that one compliment just won’t fix it overnight. It is possible that you’re not feeling confident about your body, or have performance anxiety. Either ways, it can lead you to shying away from all the horniness that could lead you to getting some.
Solution: Talk it out with your partner. He can help you to get over your fears and a partner like that is more arousing than anyone else. However, it’s a long process and you have to work on your self-confidence first and foremost.
3) You’re not feeling loved
I have noticed that it’s easier for me to be turned on when I am feeling loved and happy as a kitten. If you’ve had fights lately or you feel he’s being emotionally distant, it can result in you not being able to want to do him.
Solution: Communication is key here. If you find yourself feeling emotionally unsatisfied, sort it out. And once it’s done, do not hold a grudge!
4) He is not doing it right
It’s possible that your love-making styles are poles apart and what he does kinda does nothing for your libido. Bad sex can put you off sex for a long time.
Solution: Try to find a common ground that serves both of you. And sorry to sound like a broken record, but communication is the key.
5) It could be a medical reason
It could be a side-effect of the pills you’ve been taking. In fact, even PCOD could be taking away the horniness from you.
Solution: Go to gynaecologist and find a solution for your problem. Kinda obvious, but someone had to say it.