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5 Myths About First-Time Sex Busted!

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You’ve gone on a couple of dates. He’s cute, makes decent jokes that don’t make you cringe and has been quite decent so far. First of all, he’s not entertained you with his blatant sexism which is more than you can ask for, at this point. He has also not sent you an unsolicited picture of his genitals, so this is good. You’ve decided that perhaps, you want to lose your virginity to this guy. When you look for information on the Internet about this act, you are probably presented with a bunch of links to videos that’s just, well, not what you asked for. But there’s plenty of info on the internet which you don’t need to believe. We bust a few first time sex myths for you.

That You Will Bleed

Stories about first time sex can range from sexy to downright scary. Some will make it sound like you will bleed your weight in blood. This doesn’t have to be true. If the act causes some bleeding, it’s because the hymen is ruptured. However, this can happen due to your lifestyle as well. For example, from exercising or horse riding, anything may cause the hymen to rupture. Bleeding isn’t a benchmark and if it doesn’t happen, don’t sweat it.

That It Will Be Painful

In the movies, they will have you believe it’s all sexy and pretty. That it’s all pleasure. To a large extent, it’s pleasure. But there may a little pain. What you will need is to be plenty lubricated, lots of foreplay and not worry about the whole thing. Let’s just say, the pain isn’t extreme and nothing you can’t handle.

That He Will Know What To Do

First time sex can often be very fumbl-y and awkward. You might be lead to think that the guy will know this way around, but more often than not, this isn’t true. You may need to guide in a lot of departments, and he may have to do the same. But hey, if you’re comfortable with each other, you’’ sail through this phase.

That You Will Have To Make Noises Or Be Really Quiet

Unlike the movies, there isn’t any right way to sex. You don’t have to be silent so you can hear crickets chirping through the process. You also don’t have to be moaning so much that the neighbours think something is off and call the police. You do you, in this case. Just make sure you are communicating.

That You MUST Orgasm

The ultimate aim is to orgasm. To experience that and bask in post-coital bliss. However, if the orgasm doesn’t happen the first time, it’s okay. Enjoy each other’s bodies, learn what you find pleasurable and let that be the guide. Don’t pressurise yourself to get to the big ‘O’. Not everyone gets there, anyway.

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Mansi Shah is the resident humour writer and random conversation starter. Tends to laugh manically at puns. Deeply enjoys the blunt force of sarcasm. Preys on chauvinists and people with incorrect grammar. Hoards makeup and beauty products. Attacks Nutella with vigour.

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