5 Harsh Truths About Relationships You Should Learn In Your 20s
“Enjoy yourself… that’s what your 20s are for. Your 30s are to learn the lessons. Your 40s are to pay for the drinks,” once said Carrie Bradshaw to a younger woman she saw herself in. While she’s mostly right about things, this one, we’re not so sure. Yes, your 20s are for enjoying yourself. But, who says you’ve to wait till your 30s to learn the lessons? Here are 5 lessons you should be learning even WHILE you have the time of your life!
1. If a man judges you based on how long you’d wait before sleeping with him, he is not worth your while
You can have sex with someone on the first date, or the 50th. It’s up to you. But, if you wait because you believed them when they said that no guy will want take you seriously if you put out too soon, then don’t. Any guy who judges you for sleeping with him “too soon,” is not worth your while.
2. Sometimes, people cheat, and it is a genuine mistake. Sometimes, people cheat because that’s who they are. Learn to tell the difference.
Learn to tell the difference so that you don’t waste your time with the second type!
3. Sex is not just something you do with someone. It is a way you connect with someone.
The other day, a friend told me, that for people in their early 20s, sex is like football. It’s just something they do. No dear, it’s not. It is a way two bodies communicate and connect with each other. Even when you have no-strings-attached sex with someone, you are still connecting with them at that level.
4. It is natural to get attracted to someone other than your partner even if you are madly in love, and deeply committed.
Acting upon that attraction, though, is something that impacts you partner, and so is not your decision alone.
Being individualistic and following your heart is great, but learn to draw the line, both in your behaviour, and when it comes to others.
5. Passion is not everything, but it is important.
If you ever have to pick between someone you feel lukewarm but safe and secure around, versus someone you feel ignited but uncertain around, pick the latter. Passion is important. But, pick the latter only if you feel that you can turn the uncertainty into certainty, and build a foundation that makes you feel safe and secure!