Youngsters In Indonesia Are Opting For A Form Of Arranged Marriage To Save Themselves From Heart Break. The Concept Is Very Similar To Arranged Marriages.

Youngsters In Indonesia Are Opting For A Form Of Arranged Marriage To Save Themselves From Heart Break. The Concept Is Very Similar To Arranged Marriages.

Youngsters in Indonesia are promoting the practice of “marriage without dating”. To people around the world, this might be the most bizarre thing they’ve read. But let’s face it, what Indonesia is promoting has 80% of its elements borrowed from our concept of arranged marriages. A tradition that has been in practice for generations in India. I mean, the first time my grandparents met each other was on their wedding day. I would certainly call that “marriage without dating”, wouldn’t you?

The only difference between our concept and theirs is that for Indonesians, it’s a choice. They can opt-out of marrying someone they barely know. For the longest time, Indians never had a say in who they get married to. But that is clearly not the case in Indonesia since the youngsters there are choosing this method of marriage to be free of breakups and heartbreaks.

Multiple publications have cited the example of Dwita Astari Pujiartati who has given up on relationships and turned to the “marriage without dating” method to find her life partner. With the help of a Muslim cleric-turned-matchmaker, she exchanged resumes with prospective suitors. She was later contacted by her long-lost acquaintance who also wanted to dip his toes in a contact-less marriage.

A contact-less relationship in this context doesn’t mean you don’t talk at all. It just means that all the conversations are virtual or happen over video calls. You do not physically meet.

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They waited an entire year before meeting each other and only spoke on the telephone. 27-year-old Pujiartati said that her now husband asked his parents if he could propose to her once “they felt a click”. I don’t’ know about you, but this sounds exactly like an arranged marriage to me.

The only difference is our parents find our future partners but everything else is exactly the same. In Indonesia, this practice is called taaruf, or introduction and it is normally is deemed extremely old-fashioned. But now, people in Indonesia are promoting it as a way to ditch the tediousness of dating while remaining a devout Muslim by avoiding pre-marital sex.

Even the objectives of this concept are very similar to our concepts. But the Indonesians took it a step further by introducing a movement called Indonesia Tanpa Pacaran (Indonesia without dating). And believe or not, their target audience is Gen Z and this group has a million followers on their Instagram page.

Personally, I find it hilarious that our Gen Z population is fighting the arrange marriage pressure ever chance they get, and these guys have found a whole new perspective to view the concept. And if you think about it, they aren’t wrong. It is an efficient way to avoid getting your heart broken.

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It was understandable that this marriage-oriented group is promoting this method. But they pushed it a step forward when they organized something called a mass breakup on New Year’s Eve. Yep, a bunch of people gathered to just break up with their partners.

They are also promoting this ideology that pre-martial sex is sin through merchandise that includes keychains, hats and hijabs.

Okay, that’s bit much. Each should be allowed to make their own choices. So, the question here is would we, as Gen Z also opt for arranged marriages just to save ourselves from an array of breakups? You know, it’s starting to sound like a good idea.

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Mitali Shah

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