The Millennial Girl’s Love Letter To Herself
Let me begin by saying, I love you! Yes, you’ve probably heard it from mom, dad, your sister and your BFF, but sometimes you need to hear it from yourself! Anybody can say anything to make you feel good, but only you can make yourself feel better.
There are so many things I want to share with you. And I hope that when you feel like the world has walked out on you, you read this and remember that there is someone who will always care about you, and love you. Do you know who that is? It’s YOU! Nobody on God’s green earth can love you like you do. You are the soul, you are the motivation, and you are the inspiration behind everything you have done, everything you are, and everything you will be. You must know, you are doing good, and I’m proud of what you’ve become. So, while this world seems to be drawing a little closer to an Apocalypse every single day, there are some things you should never forget, no matter what happens.
Believe in yourself, always, because if you do not believe in self, you cannot achieve what you’ve set your eyes to. Always know this: you can achieve anything in this world, once you decide you can. You are brave, you are strong, and your heart is made of gold.
Strive to be a better version of yourself, and become that ray of sunshine that brings hope and happiness to others, too. You do not need validation from others. So stop comparing yourself to everyone else. There is only one you, and there never will be another you on the face of this earth. Make yourself the competition, the goal, and the aim you want to achieve. Be better than yesterday, in everything you do, because you can.
Embrace your imperfections, and learn to love yourself. There are so many people who will taunt you, play mind games with you, and body shame you; there will never be a dearth of these kind of people. But never let these people full of insecurities ever mess with your shine. Shed the concerns and insecurities that these people have forced upon you. Look in the mirror and say, “I love you”. Do it often. Yes, you have your flaws, everyone does; but don’t let these flaws get you down. Love everything you come with—your flabby arms, lack of thigh gap, crooked teeth. Love your scars because these scars make you what you are today. You are incomplete without them. They are a proof of what you have been through, and how you’ve managed to rise above.
Tear down the walls you’ve built in your heart. It is okay if your last relationship ended badly or did not work out. It doesn’t mean you do not deserve a second chance at love. You really do. Anyone would be lucky to have you as their partner because you know how to love and care for another. Shed any inhibitions you have about letting people into your life. Give them a chance, and see your world grow bigger and wider.
Stay positive. To always remain positive, you must put a distance between you and toxic people in your life. You need friends and family who love you from the bottom of their hearts. You do NOT need people who don’t need you. If they can’t lift you up, and are always looking for opportunities to bring you down, you are definitely better off without them.
Learn to forgive, because if you do not forgive the ones who have hurt you, you won’t be able to leave the past behind. People make mistakes; you have made some too, so you know how it feels when someone doesn’t forgive you. Give yourself a chance to move on from the past.
Make mistakes! Yes! Follow your heart, regardless of the things others say to you. Learn from your own mistakes and you’ll enjoy the roller coaster ride. Don’t be too hard on self if you fail. Embrace the journey, and do not regret the decisions you have made in your life.
Prioritise you. It is okay to be a little selfish because you are your priority. Do things that make you happy, and for once, forget what others may or may not think. You don’t live for them, do you? You live for yourself, this is your life, and nobody can make you live on their terms.
Be strong because that is who you are. Do not take nonsense from anyone. Do not keep quiet when people treat you badly. Demand your rights and do not succumb to the pressure of ‘societal norms’.
You are a superstar, girl, and do NOT let anyone ever convince you otherwise.
From the one who cares the most about you,
When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you. — African Proverb