The 9 Stages Of A Long Distance Relationship
You saw him for the first time at a bar, fell head over heels, and knew instantly you wanted to be with him. And then life happened! You realised that you both have different goals and passions in life that will lead you two in different directions, but you LOVE each other truly, madly, deeply!
Now all of a sudden you find yourself in a LDR (Long Distance Relationship), and you feel all sorts of emotions – happiness, sadness, hope and even regret! Although LDRs are hard, they can be truly rewarding in the long run.
Based on my own experience, here are the 9 stages every long-distance relationship goes through. So embrace them already!
You think it’s a piece of cake. You can so do this!
Your first kiss, your first date, and your first everything is all so fresh in your memory, you can’t get over it. You feel like you can do this with your eyes closed, and you are super pumped!
You start wondering whether you really want to do this or not.
You start wondering if it’s worth it, or if you should just go kiss the guy who’s totally checking you out. You are trying to make the best of the situation and deal with the mixed emotions. But hang in there, girl! It will all be worth it in the end!
You miss each other so much, and get depressed that you can’t be with him.
You are at a club, and you just have to run to the bathroom because “your” song is playing, and you can’t take it. As soon as you hear Ye Dooriya from Love Aaj Kal, you start sobbing, because anything and everything makes you miss him.
Habits and routine make your relationship monotonous.
With the time difference, you land up talking at the same time every day! Boring, obviously! This is when you probably need to give him a surprise call in the middle of work. Or maybe wake up in the middle of the night (during his day time), just to say ‘I love you’.
You start noticing things you don’t like about him.
All the infatuation is gone, and you start to see your partner for who he really is. You might not like certain things about him, but instead of picking a fight with him over calling you ten minutes late, choose your battles, and ask yourself if it’s even worth fighting about.
You have trust issues, and start worrying about everything he is doing.
If he says he is going out for beers with the boys, all you can imagine is him out on a date with a girl in a red dress. This is the phase where you start doubting everything he says, and jump to stupid conclusions. But girl, maybe it’s you, not him! Stop overthinking, and just distract yourself.
You realise your partner is strong and independent.
This is the stage where you and your partner are independent individuals, but still a couple. Whether it is financial, emotional or career, you are not dependent on each other, but still want to be with each other. Isn’t that awesome?
You feel optimistic about the future, since you are so close to the silver lining.
When you see him after a really long time, you realise everything is finally going to work out, and you are so close to the silver lining. There are less arguments because you have learned a lot about each other, and about the logistics of communicating with each other. Yay! You made it.
Every relationship requires effort, whether long distance or not. All I’m saying is, embrace this experience gracefully, and be prepared for whatever comes your way.