Shibani Dandekar Spoke About How She Is Scared For Her Safety Now. We Totally Relate To That.
A few weeks ago, I was walking down my lane at 11 pm and noticed a strange man walking a few steps behind me. Suddenly, I felt chills run up and down my spine and quickly walked into the nearest building without alarming him. I waited there patiently for him to pass by before continuing. After that, all the way back I had this weird uncomfortable sensation in the pit of my stomach and goosebumps all over. I am sure I was just being cautious but the paralysing fear is something I never experienced before.
This dirty gut-wrenching feeling is something every woman has experienced multiple times. A man staring at you, passing lecherous comments or whistling suggestively is enough to spark a strong sense of fear mixed in with discomfort. It sometimes even goes as far as them trying to grope you in public. These are situations that are unfortunately very common and it is time we accept that this is the kind of society we live in. And with everything that is happening in the country right now, the hope for a change seems bleak. No woman is truly safe on the roads or anywhere for that matter, we are all a little scared and on edge. But, for how long?
Sharing her own story about feeling unsafe in the city is Shibani Dandekar. In a recent interview she said, “I’ve never felt so unsafe in these ten years living in Mumbai, but a couple of weeks ago when I was leaving a restaurant, I couldn’t find my car and was walking down a busy street. Suddenly, I felt creepy and scared. It wasn’t even late at night; it was in broad daylight. I can’t imagine having this feeling all the time which many women probably have while going to work or on the train or in a cab. I can’t imagine living my life with no fear for my safety.” Unfortunately, we can all relate, can’t we?
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In the wake of the horrific gang rape and murder of Dr. Priyanka Reddy, a lot of celebrities are voicing out their concerns about the safety of women. But, Shibani is the only one who showed us the face of reality when she said that all we are doing is talking. There is no actual progress taking place.
She says, “We all raise awareness and talk about making India a safe place for women, but at some point in time, I just feel that it is not creating a big impact. There needs to be some solution. A lot of us keep questioning how we are using the platform to raise awareness, but I don’t think it’s enough. I would love to know what more I could do to raise awareness and help, whether it is about education for young girls or the safety of women in the country,”
Creating awareness is an extremely good thing. But what good is that awareness doing if it doesn’t lead to effective action? Social media has proven to be a great platform to talk about how we can keep women safe. But at the end of the day, when I am on my way home all by myself there is going to be that uncomfortable fear that no number of tweets can wash away. Just like Shibani said, words without action create absolutely no impact and the time for action is now. We need to find a more creative solution, one that spreads awareness while making sure incidents like this stop happening.
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In the same interview, the singer/actress also says, “We read about someone getting raped or murdered almost every day. It is devastating and disgusting. I don’t understand what is happening, what we are doing about it and what progress we are making,” She further adds “We aren’t safe in our own home, in our own country, and in our own land. For me, it is the most ridiculous thing ever. The rate at which women are being harmed is rapidly growing and is unacceptable.”
She is absolutely hitting the nail on the head with this comment. India has been ranked as one of the most dangerous countries for women. We need to get out there and create some real change for ourselves. Otherwise, we will keep tweeting and spreading awareness while women on the street keep getting raped and murdered.
Guys, let’s do more.