She Left Her House Because Her Family Was Forcing Her To Get Married. She Has Now Cracked PSC Exams And Is An Officer
My relatives started making marriage jokes the day I turned 22. I never found those funny so I started making wisecrack comments at them in the same humorous tone. My parents, on the other hand, just smile and tell them it’s too early for me. You see, I come from an extremely liberal household. I have never been forced to do something or live a certain way. My parents taught me the difference between right and wrong and then trusted me enough to give me the space I needed to choose the direction in which my life would head. However, I understand that most girls in India don’t have this luxury.
We have all heard stories of girls being forced into marriage as soon as they are of age. Our society is truly obsessed with the idea. If you think about it, it’s no wonder we are dealing with a population explosion. Anyway, even though this happens behind closed doors, it doesn’t change the fact that it’s a very sad ordeal.
Some girls become victims of this messed up system while others rebel their way out. I mean, can you blame them? Being expected to give up their goals and ambitions to be confined in the four walls of the house because that’s the way of the family sounds like a terrible bargain. Today, we will be talking about one such woman who rebelled against her family and went on to become an inspiration to us all.
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— Ishita Bhatia (@IshitaBhatiaTOI) September 15, 2020
Sanju, a woman hailing from Meerut, UP, refused to get married despite the insurmountable pressure from her family. She held onto her aspirations and decided to follow her dreams instead of conforming to her family’s wishes.
She graduated in 2004 and wanted to study further to become a government officer. Of course, that’s what her parents wanted for her. Even though she tried to explain to them that it wasn’t the right time for her to get married, they continued to pressure her with it anyway.
Eventually, Sanju left home and made her dream her priority. In 2013, she started preparing for her PCS examination and after seven years of hard work, she finally succeeded. Of course, it wasn’t an easy journey for her. She would take tuitions and work at a private company to keep herself afloat while she prepared for her exams.
She told TOI, “That year (in 2013) I not only left home, but also the PG course which I was pursuing from DU. There was no money. I took a room on rent and started teaching children. I also got part-time teaching jobs at private schools. Somehow I continued my studies for civil services exams.
She is now preparing for her IAS examinations and wants to become a collector in Meerut someday.
While I was reading her story, the first thing that came to mind was how easy her journey would’ve been if her family had supported her instead of forcing her to get married. It’s really disheartening that even today daughters are seen as nothing but liabilities and their talents and potential is squashed to make them marriage material.
The moral of Sanju’s story is not only that hard work pays off but also that families have to start letting their daughters grow and not want to pawn them off to any suitor. She is a role model for hundreds of girls who go through this very same ordeal.
The question to ask yourself is- why should our daughters be limited to marriage?