Nawazuddin Siddiqui’s Wife Aaliya Filed For Divorce Because She Was Stripped Of Her Self-Respect. That’s So Important
Here’s the thing, women have always been asked to step up and sacrifice for men. This rigid patriarchy has always made women feel small and close to worthless. We were always told that the men and the boys take priority over everything and that our only end goal of life is to get married, serve our husbands and take care of the children. I know you’re thinking that this was the scene decades ago and yes, things have progressed much further now, but this mentality is still a prominent undercurrent.
I don’t know anything about the dynamics that play out between a husband and wife. But in my observation, women have been told by their mothers and grandmothers constantly that they always have to put their self-respect aside and compromise for the sake of their husbands. If it’s not an equal partnership, what good is it?
The whole reason that I am talking about women and their self-respect today is that Nawazuddin Siddiqui’s wife decided to serve him with divorce papers for this very reason. Now, normally we don’t talk about celebrity divorces and things like that but there are very few women who would publicly take the steps Aaliya Siddiqui took to protect their self-esteem and we respect the hell out of that.
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Anyway, according to her lawyer, Nawaz was served with divorce papers on May 7th via WhatsApp and she is also fighting for sole custody of their children. In a recent interview, she said that their problems began ever since they got married and that she was always made to feel a nobody.
She said, “There are a lot of things that I don’t want to bring in the public domain as of now, but our problems started soon after we got married over a decade ago. Two months of lockdown gave me a lot of time to introspect. Self-respect is extremely important in a marriage. Woh meri khatam ho chuki thi (I didn’t have any left), I didn’t have that. I was made to feel like a nobody, I always felt alone. His brother Shamas was also an issue. I have gone back to my original name, Anjana Kishor Pandey. I don’t want to be reminded that I am using someone’s identity for my benefit.”
Nawazuddin Siddiqui’s Wife Aaliya Initiates Divorce Proceeding, Says She’s Reverting To Her Original Name Anjana Kishor Pandeyhttps://t.co/VNemcWGFKM
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She further added, “I want to go with the flow. I haven’t thought much about the future, but I don’t want this marriage anymore. There are no chances of reconciliation.” And when she was asked about their two children, she said “I have raised them, and I want their custody.”
Considering that self-respect is something that women have always had to compromise on, it’s very interesting (and kind of refreshing) that she talks about it in such a manner. We have all heard of tens of cases of women who just tolerate being part of a bad marriage and endure all the belittling from the husband and his family all because that is what is expected of her. But that is wrong on every level and it needs to change. Aaliya has also made accusations that Nawazuddin’s brother hit her. In an interview, she said that she was mentally tortured and that divorces are common in the family. “It’s a pattern. There are already seven cases registered by the wives of their house against them, and four divorces have taken place. This is the fifth one. It’s a pattern in his family. You conceal a lot to avoid embarrassment before others, but how much can you take in love,”she said.
I am very glad that Anjana Kishor Pandey has taken her story public for now, it can inspire other women in similar situations to get on the driver’s seat.