Mudassar Aziz, Director Of Pati Patni Aur Woh Defends The Marital Rape Joke With A Rubbish Defense. Please Just Stop!
We aren’t going to say we were always woke. It’s been a learning curve for all of us. But just because something’s were okay at a certain point in time, considered funny even, doesn’t mean it’s still okay. Apartheid was the norm at one point in time, doesn’t make it okay now. Racist jokes were probably funny at some point to some people. They aren’t now – we will excuse Donald Trump. So there’s a time and a place for a joke you’re trying to pull off – a concept entirely alien to Mudassar Aziz, director of Pati, Patni Aur Woh.
We are indeed talking about the controversial balatkar (rape) joke that caused a twitter uprising. Let’s take you back a little, shall we? Earlier this month, the trailer to the much-awaited movie dropped. But it was riddled with sexist jokes, stereotypes and of course, the joke on marital rape that Karthik Aryan cracks just took the cake.
We were pissed off just like the rest of Twitter and we expected an apology from the man who made the movie- Mudassar Aziz, who was clearly unhappy about having to mute the comment. But what we got out of him was better than an apology, we got a justification. Because that is exactly what was needed in this situation, a man justifying his joke on marital rape!
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He begins his defense in the best way possible. He says that a 12-year-old needs to know what rape is and the fact that he had to replace the word in the movie is unfortunate. He says,” “The act is wrong, but if you are not going to talk about it if they aren’t going to know what the term stands for, you’re going to be a generation that’s unaware. Don’t stop the word, stop the act.”
Here is why I am confused- he is saying that the act needs to be stopped, not the word. But the joke is, “Biwi se sex maang lein toh hum bikhaari. Biwi ko sex na de toh hum atyachaari. Aur kisi tarah jugaad laga ke usse sex haasil kar lena toh balaatkari bhi hum hai.” (If we ask our wives for sex, then we’re called beggars, if we deny them sex, then we’re called torturers, and if we somehow convince them into having sex with us, we’re called rapists) From what I gather, the joke means that if you just take sex from your wife, you are called a rapist. In that case, how is Mudassar stopping the act? Have I got it wrong?
Also Read: The Trailer Of Pati, Patni Aur Woh Is Out And It Is Stereotypical, Sexist And Painful To Watch
Annoyed that this guy should be a given a budget to make a full-fledged movie already? Hold on, it gets better. He goes on to compare his ridiculous joke to the speech in 3 Idiots that had everyone in splits. He argued, “By muting that word, you’re not getting anything. What sort of double standard is it that in one film (3 Idiots) a person reads ‘balatkaar’ 36 times from a letter and everyone was laughing.”
He does know what the context means right? In the trailer of Pati Patni Aur Woh, Karthik Aryan’s character is saying that we by any chance we gain sex from our wives, we are called rapists. Whereas, in that 3 Idiots speech, they were making fun of a nerdy guy to prove a point that has nothing to do with the heinous act. While we aren’t entirely onboard – we can see many, many problems with that joke now – we still think it was slightly better because it didn’t promote the act or glorify it in any manner. If that speech was made today, we would be up in arms against it as well.
Another thing has Mudassar completely ignored the fact that times have changed. Maybe people weren’t talking about rape then. But since then, the absolute horror that was Nirbhaya has happened. The #MeToo movement is here. These are sensitive, better times. So please take your rubbish thoughts, your very stupid arguments and direct them to people who won’t see through it like we do. We think it’s trash.
He then goes on to say that since the advent of social media, people have become “finger happy”. Don’t take it in a dirty way, lol. He just means that people love commenting on something without knowing what the context of it is. Mudassar also emphasized that Pati Patni Aur Woh is a progressive movie where the women are in power.
He said, “Everyone who thought this was adult humour or thought I was sympathising or empathising with the idea of marital rape is going to be rudely shocked. The woman in this film takes the man apart. It’s a progressive film.”
Again, read the damn joke! Karthik Aryan’s character is clearly wanting to sleep with his wife and is ranting about it to his friend. I don’t understand how we could’ve got it wrong. Besides, he needs to stop defending the joke on marital rape and just apologise for overlooking such a crucial detail.
His defense is weak and no one is having it. It is NOT FUNNY!