In This Old Interview, Ranbir Kapoor Opened Up About His Breakup With Deepika Padukone And How He Bottled Up His Feelings. We Can Relate.
It’s been years since Deepika Padukone and Ranbir Kapoor were in a relationship but it’s still fresh in our minds. Maybe because their chemistry in movies such as Bachna Ae Haseeno, Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani and Tamasha was sizzling. Or possibly because Deepika was so much in love that she got his name tattooed on the nape of her neck. Either ways, we can see it wasn’t just a passing romance and in one way or the other, it stayed with both of them. Which is probably why, they couldn’t hold any grudge against each other and still share a great level of camaraderie. However, while there was a lot of hue and cry around their breakup with most of the blame place squarely on Ranbir’s shoulders, it was both of them who went through the journey of love and loss. It affected both, maybe in different ways and this old interview of Ranbir proves just that.
In that interview, Ranbir opened up about his breakup with Deepika, without actually naming her. “It bothered me because of the hoo-ha made around it. Yes, I was in a relationship with an actress who was talked about a lot. You know, I had just started out and working with these glamorous actresses, I was friendly with them. My relationship with that actress didn’t work out, we broke up. But I think we were mature enough to deal with it in a right way. There was no complexity in the situation (raita phailana),” Ranbir said. And now that we see the kind of connection they share and how Deepika’s partner Ranveer Singh and Ranbir’s partner Alia Bhatt are comfortable with it.
But back then, Ranbir was going through a very difficult phase and was in a way, isolating himself from his loved ones. He was keeping a poker face but deep down it seems like he was just bottling his feelings. “It’s not that I an actor and I will lose my stardom if I marry. If I find a girl who deeply I am in love with, I really want to marry because I just feel this deep void inside me that I don’t have anybody to share things with. Not even with my mom,” he said. “I don’t know what happened and it’s something which I am aware of it, I want to do something about it but me and my mother, for some reason, have grown a little bit apart, the connect what we had. She is one person who I love the most and I am sure she feels the same about me. But I have just been too detached. I don’t know why,” he further added.
We deal with grief in our own way and Ranbir went so deep in his shell that he was finding it difficult to come out of it. “I am not expressing myself, hanging out with my friends, my parents, I am just too caught up with my work. It’s not stardom because I am not enjoying it. I am aware of it and I feel very lonely. I need to connect with my parents, I need to share, I need to make them happy, I need to hear them out. But I am very conscious about it and I want to do something about it,” Ranbir said. It’s not very often that we see actors talking so openly about grief and we should applaud him for doing that.
He further spoke about how his relationship with Deepika taught him about love and commitment. Ranbir explained, “I feel I have grown as a person. I have spent one and a half year with that person and that person has only added to my growth. I will cherish that experience with her because I have learned so much about life, commitment. You value commitment even more from these relationships. But I am not a commitment phobic. I have really just not met that person who I really want to settle down with.”
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We’ve all gone through breakups and most of us react in the same way. We tend to put a facade on and pretend to be all okay. Why? Because society tells us that crying out and being vulnerable is a sign of weakness. But that’s wrong! Not letting things out makes you suffer in silence and causes damage that’s even more difficult to reverse. But finally, with Alia Bhatt, Ranbir seems to have gotten around to being more expressive.