#AskHauterfly: Is My Boyfriend Cheating On Me?
You can be a secure person in a relationship with another secure person but sometimes, just like that a thought about cheating will creep in. Then because we all think in an endless loop, we can end up being convinced our partner has been cheating on us. And I blame the teenage sitcoms for this. Even if you don’t want to, you are forced to think or rather overthink about your bae being with someone else.
But people cheat. And even the nicest of them do. Quite frankly, in today’s time, it’s not really shocking but finding out is always as hurtful. So, how do you catch the signs that your boyfriend is sowing his seeds elsewhere? Here is a checklist for you.
PS: Please don’t start suspecting your perfectly happy relationship. But keep a lookout for the signs for sure!
1. He Starts Taking Care Of His Hygiene
If you have been with your certain someone for more than a few months, you tend to get super comfortable with them. You’ve flossed around them, they’ve seen you at your unshaven best and in general both of you don’t make too much of an effort to be dressed up. So if your man goes from roaming in his boxers to smartly dressed… girl, there is something wrong. He’ll put in the efforts to try and impress the new girl. You know the initial days where he would do the same for you? Exactly like that.
2. Your Sex Life Shows A 404 Error
He’ll start drifting away from you when it comes to intimacy. When it’s time to get hot and heavy, he isn’t always ready to go. He’s not 100% in, and it will show in his performance. If you know what I mean!
3. His Workload Increases
If he’s burning the midnight oil at work for a promotion, chances are he’s genuinely busy. But making time for your partner is important, right? So if the meetings get longer, and presentations get tougher, chances are your guy has some other business he needs to take care of!
4. His Phone Is Always On ‘Do Not Touch’ Mode
Even if you just want to check the time or glance through the calendar to check dates for your next vacation, he immediately gets defensive. He gets uncomfortable if look at his phone. Serious red flags here! It’s not like you’re going all Sherlock on him and checking his messages, right? Okay, maybe sneak a peek.
5. You Never Know About His Whereabouts
He’ll text you end of day explaining how busy his day was, or the weekend he’ll be with his family and won’t be able to talk. There is a reason for every time he goes MIA and that happens more than normal. If it’s happening enough for you to think he works for the secret services, maybe ask what’s going on.
6. He Cancels Plans Last Minute
Something always comes up. Headache, mum’s birthday or his cat getting diarrhoea… it’s looking like anything can be an excuse to cancel that date. You may be fuming but this may be a sign as well.