Bhumi Pednekar Apologises For The Marital Rape Joke. Kartik Aaryan Continues To Pretend The Blatant Sexism Is Okay
If there is one thing I do not understand about Bollywood is why they go one step forward and then go a hundred steps back. On one hand, they are making female-centric movies and on the other hand they go ahead and make movies with jokes on marital rape! Yep, we are talking about Pati Patni Aur Woh. In a country where people are fighting tooth and nail to criminalise marital rape, who are these filmmakers that will ride on a rape joke to earn themselves a few laughs?
I’m sure you have read all about this though with the Twitterati slamming them and all. Now, Bhumi Pednekar has apologized for the comment. While that might be her attempt to pacify the situation, we are a little confused with her apology. Since a few days ago, she is the one who said, Pati Patni Aur Woh is not a sexist, baseless movie. So, which one is it, Bhumi?
Meanwhile, Kartik Aaryan in love with himself so successfully delivering a dialogue which is stupid and sexist that he’s just going around that nothing of the sort has happened.
Also Read: The Trailer Of Pati, Patni Aur Woh Is Out And It Is Stereotypical, Sexist And Painful To Watch
Before we get into it, let’s recap a little bit, shall we? On 4th November the movie’s trailer dropped and while it was stereotypical and sexist and all kinds of backward, a dialogue of the movie caused a whole lot of controversy for the makers. The dialogue delivered by Kartik Aryan, painfully is about “Biwi se sex maang lein toh hum bikhaari. Biwi ko sex na de toh hum atyachaari. Aur kisi tarah jugaad laga ke usse sex haasil kar lena toh balaatkari bhi hum hai.” (If we ask our wives for sex then we’re called beggars, if we deny them sex then we’re called torturers, and if we somehow convince them into having sex with us, we’re called rapists)
When this dialogue went viral for being a very sexist, Bhumi Pednekar said that the makers of Pati Patni Aur Woh made a conscious effort about not making it into a “sexist, baseless movie.” So here is she saying that it is not a sexist movie, right? Then, a few days ago during an interview, she was asked to comment on the matter. That is when she said, “If Pati, Patni Aur Woh has hurt sentiments, we are truly sorry, but everyone who is involved with the film does not belong to that school of thought. The makers are very sensitive people.” So, you can see where the confusion arises. If she believes that it isn’t a sexist movie or even an offensive dialogue why is she apologising?
There is one more thing about this that is niggling at us. Why is Bhumi apologising instead of Kartik Aryan or even Mudassar Aziz (the director)? She hasn’t written the dialogue, nor was it she who delivered it. So, why is she being made the scapegoat? If anyone should be apologizing for this, don’t you think it should be the “hero” who was okay with saying the dialogue or even the director who approved it in the first place?
Also Read: The Poster For Pati, Patni Aur Woh Is Out And As Usual, The Patni Is In A Saree And The Woh Is Sexy. Stereotypical Much?
After the tremendous backlash, the makers of the movie have reportedly said that they got “carried away” with this dialogue. They thought that since Kartik’s monologue in Pyaar Ka Panchnama was such a hit, they tried to pull it off here as well. But once they realised it was all sorts of offensive, they have decided to edit it out. Basically, it took them a whole twitter backlash to realise that jokes on marital rape are not acceptable? Wow.
In the same interview, Bhumi also says, “Pati, Patni Aur Woh is not a film that is taking a dig at marital rape. As actors, we need to be sensitive about things, but I think that the dialogue has gone out of context. This film is truly empowering to women.” The question here is, how exactly is empowering to women? Based on what we see in the trailer the whole movie is about a man being forced into marriage at a young age to a simple, small-town girl and then falling for the woh aka Ananya Pandey. The movie just sounds a bad WhatsApp forward a sleazy uncle would send on a family group.
Let’s face it, aren’t we over watching women being portrayed so stereotypically? The wife always being the woman clad in ethnic clothes, too uptight to put out. And of course, the girlfriend is this fashionable hot woman. If they are saying the movie is a modern twist to the OG 1978 movie of the same name, what exactly is modern about this?
If you want to make a movie on an extra-marital affair, do it with a little more flair please. It is high time we move on from the whole ‘having a wife is torturous’ narrative. It was never funny anyway.