This European Couple Had A South Indian Wedding In Puducherry Because They Fell In Love With All The Traditions
Indians have a profound inclination towards inheritance, irrespective of whether it is a burden or a boon. We like to carry things from one generation to another – heirlooms, bloodline, surname or beliefs. It’s such a big deal for people for their bloodline to continue, for the traditions to be followed by generations to come, especially in weddings. And here we are carrying beliefs on our shoulders that we may or may not share. Because the show must go on, right?
This has caused enough disharmony in the world as people have become rigid with decades of those traditions. It’s difficult to cut through and dare you not follow beliefs of your own. However, a couple decided to carve their own path and got married in a Hindu wedding.
People near Vanur witnessed the wedding of Yann Loosli (Swiss) and Aurore Mabilat (French-German) in Hindu style as they tied the knot at Neelagandeswarar temple in Kodur village near Vanur.
Yann and Aurore became friends six years ago and eventually fell in love. Aurore works as a teacher in Auroville. “We are devotees of Lord Shiva. The traditions and food culture of this land have a special place in our heart. We have a Lord Ganesha statue at our house entrance and many more idols of Hindu Gods in our pooja room,” Aurore said.
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BJP Vanur union president Thanga Shivakumar told Express, “Based on the couple’s request, our partymen made all arrangements for the marriage.”
The wedding looks beautiful and authentic. The guests were served authentic south Indian dishes.
I mean we are all happy because they didn’t go for a wedding in the culture they inherited but in a culture they believe in. Why can’t we be flexible enough when someone from our culture wants to go ahead and marry in a different culture or style? Or just follow different beliefs? Like I wanted a catholic wedding since I was 16 but I know that practically speaking the chances of that are bleak because I am Punjabi.
One Tanishq ad about following inter-faith traditions and marriages got the whole nation riled up. There’s really no point in being rigid in our beliefs. Because what we are following isn’t even ours to own. Honestly, there are so many rituals I don’t believe in. But can I tell my parents that in my wedding, I will exclude those? I will but not everyone can.
Another beautiful wedding took place years ago in the former Dutch palace at Bolghatty which is now a hotel of the Kerala Tourism Development Corporation. Nicola Pauling, a journalist (with Reuters then) and John Freeman, a pharmaceutical retailer from the UK flew down to India to marry in Hindu style. “The bride, wearing a deep red ghagra choli, arrived in a boat at the venue, while the groom, attired in a green sherwani and kurta, escorted her to the flower bedecked ”mandapam” as ”Vatapi Ganapathe” was played on the nagaswaram to welcome the bride. The couple, originally from New Zealand, arrived from UK to exchange wedding vows and some traditional Hindu rituals were performed as the nagaswaram music was played in the background. The traditional ”Nilavilaku” was also lit,” Indiatimes had reported.
Even Varanasi is a popular destination among foreigners when it comes to getting married. A Mexican customs officer tied the knot by the Ganges in Hindu style and took seven pheras two years ago but there have been weddings by the Ganges before that too.
Meanwhile, in the pandemic people are getting creative with their weddings. A couple recently got married wearing PPE suits! Of course, several people called them out for not waiting after the bride tested positive. But they did what they had to. Nobody cares if the wedding was in a temple, backyard or a covid center. You do you. Why can’t we just marry in any style we want? Follow the traditions of a faith that resonates with our beliefs. Or simply do a court marriage because rituals don’t make love.
Thankfully, weddings are getting flexible now as couples are taking their own call and not getting pressurised by society’s expectations or what they inherited from their families.