People Reveal The Best Relationship Advice They Got From Movies
Have you ever gone out to watch a movie and returned home with a lot to think about? Yeah, I don’t mean to touch where it hurts by reminding you of a time when going to the theatres was a thing. But my point here is that movies touch our souls as we get engrossed in a different world, though fictional but with our whole heart. Whenever I am feeling a little disappointed in love, I watch Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani and it not only gives me hope but a zest for life. I feel like life is full of surprises and we should take our chances. And on days that you stumble across yet another fuckboi who doesn’t treat you right, The Holiday reminds me I should be the leading lady in my own life and not let anyone take that away from me.
So essentially, if you look at all the right movies, you will have a library of good relationship advice that will help you heal and also understand things a lot better. And we tend to do that, right? Especially, those of us who are often seen crying when the couple finally comes together, right after an emotion-packed monologue or a dramatic climax at the airport.
What’s the best relationship advice you’ve gotten from a movie? Asking for a friend.
— MGM Studios (@MGM_Studios) August 11, 2020
Netizens have been discussing the best relationship advice they got from a movie and twitter is now flooded with lessons we must learn. “What’s the best relationship advice you’ve gotten from a movie? Asking for a friend,” MGM studios wrote.
“Don’t you hate that, uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to talk about bullsh*t in order to be comfortable? That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the hell up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.”
Pulp Fiction 1994
— Memory Ponce de Leon (@memorypdl) August 11, 2020
A user replied quoting a movie dialogue that talks about finding someone you are comfortable being silent with. “Don’t you hate that, uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to talk about bullsh*t in order to be comfortable? That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the hell up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.” Pulp Fiction 1994,” they wrote.
I can see now I never really committed to Laura. I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and… I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing. And that’s suicide. By tiny, tiny increments
— Chess Forum (@chessforumnyc) August 12, 2020
And then someone finally said something about commitment phobia and it couldn’t get more real. “I can see now I never really committed to Laura. I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and… I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing. And that’s suicide. By tiny, tiny increments….High Fidelity,” wrote another user. You see, unless you walk right through the door towards the one you love, you will never really be able to commit. And then you will lose out on that one person who could have been perfect for you.
Arthur Abbott: Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason, you’re behaving like the best friend. (The Holiday)
— Film Vibe (@FILMVIBE_CALI) August 12, 2020
Then came the advice that I spoke about at the start of the article from The Holiday. “Arthur Abbott: Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason, you’re behaving like the best friend. (The Holiday),” the user wrote. Don’t settle and never let a friendzoning man take away your sparkle.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
— Cammie Conn (@Ham4Cam) August 11, 2020
“We accept the love we think we deserve,” wrote a user. This line is from The Perks of Being a Wallflower and is as beautiful as the movie itself. If we work on loving our self the way we deserve, we will never allow someone to give us substandard attention and watered-down love.
And while we are at this, I thought why not give some credit to our good old Bollywood films that helped us through thick and thin. These are the movies we watched with our besties on a sleepover, alone after a breakup and just when we needed a little push towards optimism again. Here are some of my favorite picks!
Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani
This movie is like a pitaara of good life advice and just watching it (doesn’t matter if it’s the 10th time) makes everything better. The friendship, love and self-love portrayed in the film make it my most favorite. When Bunny tells Naina, “Khud pe Daya karna band karo, aur khud se pyaar karna seekho,” it turns her life around because that’s what self-love does to you. There’s no point in feeling victimized by life situations, rather we’re supposed to seize the day! Naina says, “Life mein jitna bhi try karo, kuch na kuch toh chootega hi. Isliye yahin, isi pal ka mazza lete hain,” and it makes you wonder why we hurry? Let’s not worry about what you’re missing on but enjoy what you have. “Tum galat nahi ho, bas mujhse bohot alag ho,” is a dialogue that people should really consider making the motto of their lives, or their phone screensaver if it helps. In fact, it will help you understand your partner better and make sure you don’t see him through rigid filters of your own perceptions.
I remember having had gone with my mom and maasi to watch this movie and it’s hilarious how I had to explain to them the concept of therapy. It almost felt like all of us were in the therapy for a fraction of the amount it would have cost us otherwise. Eventually, my mom realised the concept of kursi and now she just laughs recalling all my exes. “Hum itni kursiyan dekhte hai ek khareedne se pehle phir apna life partner choose karne se pehle options dekhne mein kya problem?” goes the dialogue. Brilliant, eh?
Kal Ho Na Ho
“Pyar ka pehla kadam dosti hai, aur aakhari bhi … bus beech ke kadam reh gaye hain,” goes the dialogue I love so dearly for it really sets the foundation for the most precious relationship advice. I don’t want someone as a partner with whom I cannot share friendship. For me, my partner is like the bestest friend I’d have, apart from the ones I already have. I mean, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai said the same thing but Rahul was a fuckboi.
Sridevi’s marriage advice at the end of the movie is just so beautiful. She says that it’s important that both partners feel equal. Sometimes, it may go out of balance and you have to help each other. And what happens when you can’t? “Life is a long journey. Meera, sometimes you will feel you are less. Kevin, sometimes you will also feel you are less than Meera. Try to help each other to feel equal. Sometimes married couples don’t even know how the other is feeling. So … how will they help the other? Does it mean the marriage is finished? No. That is the time you have to help yourself. Nobody can help you better than you. If you do that, you will return back feeling equal. Your friendship will return back. Your life will be beautiful,” she says. Yes, you help yourself. Be codependent but independent too!