5 Signs He Is Putting The Effort Into Knowing You
People have so many turn-ons: a beard, a sense of humour, abs, and more. I love it when someone puts the effort into knowing me! It’s just so heartening to see that someone is willing to go out of their way for you. In fact, I feel very much like Rachel Greene on Halloween when she gives all her candies away to the kid who does a little extra for it.
I don’t want to focus too much on the negatives because let the bygones be the bygones. However, it’s worth mentioning just how much we end up getting surprised when someone puts effort in knowing us after meeting so many people who just want sex.
Have you ever signed up on a dating app hoping to find someone worth all that pain you put in getting dressed for the dates? But honestly, after sticking around for a bit, your walls go even more up because you don’t know how to figure who wants what. Of course, just asking would be the best but the fuckbois don’t walk around with signboards or waiver forms.
After going through all that, you end up lowering your expectations until you meet a quality guy who is all up to put the effort into knowing you, connecting with you. Plus, men who go through dating like they are operating Alexa are just not worth it. Roll up your sleeves and get to work.
Is your guy putting effort into knowing you? Here are 5 signs that say he is.
1) Scheduling phone calls
If they really want to know you and they are not an ass, they will understand that you both are busy. Which is why, instead of just waiting for a time when both of you are free, they will schedule a call with you. Also, because they’d be really excited to know you better. Your conversations go on for long and it means you have to set time aside. They are taking charge and actively pursuing you.
2) Asking follow up questions
You told them about your presentation at work and they not only remember it but also asks follow up questions. They will ask you how it went. They will be keen to know if your best friend resolved her fight with her husband or if your cat finally came around to not being mad at you. It’s important to them and that’s their way of putting effort into knowing you.
3) Being consistent in his interest
Consistency is very important. Katy Perry has taught us years ago that ‘Hot and cold’ behaviour spells fuckboi and you must not indulge in that frosting-defrosting indecisiveness. He is putting effort and consistently at that. Your connection isn’t going in circles but following a trajectory that goes straight and upwards. That happens with dedication.
4) Planning dates in advance
Spontaneous plans are good when you’ve already met 1000 times and know each other’s order of drinks by heart. Unless that happens, you ought to plan dates. If it’s too spontaneous, scattered, and always ends up in sexy time, they don’t care to know you. But if they plan dates, real ones that make you feel like dressing up, chances are they genuinely want this to go somewhere. They are putting the effort into knowing you and spending time with you!
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5) Subscribing to your life’s latest updates
They have taken the HD subscription to your life and if you tell them you are going to a wedding or a party, they will ask for pictures. They are so keen on you that they are interested in how you looked and what fun you had. It’s so adorable when someone is all up for knowing what you have been doing, even the boring details! Nothing is TMI for them – not even why you decided to go for a bodycon dress instead of shift one. They probably don’t know what those things are but your excitement is contagious. And they possibly appreciate how you hear them go on about things they like!
If you can relate to these signs, congratulations! This is going well and hopefully, these efforts will last.
