Prachi Desai Loves Her Independence Too Much To Marry Some Who Isn’t Perfect For Her. Kasam Se, This Is Ekdum Correct!
Everyone has their own reasons, and multiple ones too, for getting pissed off at COVID. One of mine was that the consequent stagnation of life that it brought along was wasting the best years of my life. I just turned 30, and I barely got to enjoy my 29, because a lot of it was spent confined at home and having massive fights with my parents about marriage. Everything, from my slashed salary to my lockdown weight had to be connected to marriage. And it is perhaps this one year of confinement that made me value my independence a bit too much to not want to get married for the wrong reasons. And I think actor Prachi Desai would concur.
The actress, who became popular for her lead role in Balaji Telefilm’s Kasamh Se opposite Ram Kapoor, and for her roles in films like Once Upon A Time In Mumbaai, Rock On!! and Bol Bachchan, has been out of sight for quite some time now. She has been selective about the roles she picks, and reportedly has a few new projects lined up as well, including Silence… Can You Hear It?, a film streaming currently on Zee5. A lot of her fans wondered if she was out of the limelight because marriage was on the cards. However, the actress isn’t really considering marriage right now.
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Prachi recently spoke about her views on marriage during an interview with TOI, and talked about how, as part of her upbringing, she was never taught to think of marriage as her ticket out of the rat race. This is something that most girls are conditioned to think of since they are young—it doesn’t matter if your career doesn’t take off or land somewhere substantial. You can always opt out and get married, and let your husband be the breadwinner. But for Prachi, her television and film career is quite a big deal.
“My parents have brought me up in such a way that I never saw marriage as a safety net or as something I would do if my career slowed down for a bit or something didn’t work out. We belong to a really humble background and we feel it’s a big deal that we have come this far. For them and for me, it is something I completely own that I have made it this far in my profession on my own, with no godfathers or hand-holders.”
Prachi is also lucky in a way because according to her, her parents have never tooted the marriage horn too much at her.
“My parents have always respected my space and never spoken about marriage or finding a guy. When my friends actually tell me that their parents are bringing up the topic at home, I find it a little surprising and odd because my parents never do that. You know, I have been married so many times on screen that I think I am done with it for now.”
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Again, this is something that most Indian girls cannot avoid, because the moment they enter their mid 20s, parents are all about marriage and “settling down”. Even if they girl is doing well in her career, she’s asked to consider putting it aside for a bit to focus on her marriage prospects. But Prachi Desai says her parents are not one to pester her. In fact, she says she values her independence too much to get married right now, to a guy who can’t accept her living her life the way she wants.
“Whoever the guy is for me, he better be prepared. I live on my terms and I love my independence too much to give it up for marriage right now. I won’t mind being married a few years later but again, only if and when someone perfect comes along.”
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Prachi Desai makes a point that we all need to pay heed to. We’ve seen Indian Matchmaking and heard Sima Taparia from Mumbai wax on about how ‘compromise’ is key to a successful marriage. And right enough, it kinda is. But compromising with something as basic but crucial as mental preparedness for marriage can be disastrous. Today, women are educated and earning, and do not want to be restricted and tied down to gender roles, something that is an indispensable part of Indian marriages. So it is only natural that they defer marriage until they find a partner and a family who is willing to let her be who she is, instead of who they want her to be.
I’ve always heard this ‘typical’ statement when it comes to a girl’s marriage that you should marry up, into a family with a higher income and standard of life. Then shouldn’t this marrying up also apply to the girl’s happiness and her independence? Shouldn’t she also marry into a family that lets her be even more herself and happier than her parental home?