Lisa Ray Talks About Body Shaming And Walking The Red Carpet. This Is A Story You Want To Hear
We find it empowering when celebrities get candid about the darker side of living in the limelight. It is refreshing when they call out the evils of celeb culture. And no one does it better than than actor/model Lisa Ray, who became a household name in the country at the young age of 16, after starring in an advertisement. Lisa has also overcome multiple myeloma, a journey she has documented in her book Close To The Bone. Her journey battling body issues is a story young girls everywhere need to hear.
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In a recent interview, the actress got personal with her revelations. “…I am most comfortable in my skin now than ever before. Ironically, I think I am most attractive at 47 rather than when I was 16 years old. Of course, I had a great body but I had so distorted view of my body that I felt so ugly and insecure all the time.”, she said.
Touching up specifically on an important topic, she spoke out about the pressure actresses are put under to look their best on the red carpet. She commented, “One of the matters I have spoken about is the appearance at the red carpet, which in present time, is considered as a big achievement, but no, it is not! There is so much criticism that is so deeply uncomfortable on how people are judged on their body, makeup, appearance,”. “So, I chose to appear on the red carpet even when I was 41-pound overweight because of the steroid use for my cancer treatment…That was a breaking moment for me to talk about something that is deeply personal.”, she revealed.
The actress also mentioned how working in the beauty industry had a big impact on her, sometimes in the worst way possible. She said, “Coming from the beauty industry, where I was in the mercy of very stringent beauty standard and somewhere also feeling guilty of endorsing some of the unrealistic beauty standards, I have understood my responsibility. I feel very strongly about my experiences,”.
Lisa’s words take us back to the time when Aishwarya Rai Bachchan was cruelly called out for appearing on the Cannes red carpet in 2012. She appeared at the festival post giving birth to her daughter, looking visibly fuller. And while she absolutely owned it, the baby weight was the topic of discussion among trolls who went on to make unsavoury comments about her weight and everything to do with it.
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Must we be so utterly critical of women not of the size and shape that is fed to us by glossy magazine covers? A penny for your thoughts.