8 Signs You’re Ready To Tie The Knot
Weddings are a big deal in our country and everyone knows how to pull off a grand one. The part that follows after, the marriage itself is where people tend to stumble. For many, marriage is a initiation into adulthood, the first time they are handling responsibilities, money and sometimes, a whole household. For some, it is a ticket to freedom, because once you’re married, anything goes. For some, it is an obvious step forward, they have completed their education and worked for a while, after all. For some, it is a celebration of love. For others, a desire to make their family bigger. Whatever your reasons may be, if you’ve been thinking about tying the knot, this one’s for you!
1. You are financially independent
Financial independence is an emancipator for women at many levels. It is not only about being able to buy what you want when you want it. Being able to support yourself means that you are not dependent on anybody else for your basic needs. This, in turn, means that nobody can ill-treat you simply because they know you’ve got nowhere to go, and so might endure misconduct. One hopes you never need to use this card, but for your own sake, you should know that you can survive on your own.
2. You know what you want in a relationship
As much as our parents may emphasise finding a “well-educated, stable boy from a good family,” you know that marriage is a lot more than college degrees, pay cheques, and family property. It is a relationship, just a legal one, and like any other relationship, you want to be emotionally, intellectually, and sexually compatible with your spouse. In this light, do you know what you want from them, and from the bond that the two of you share?
3. You have had dated enough, and now look forward to having your person
Essentially, this means that you don’t have unfulfilled needs. You won’t be sitting in your living room five or ten years from now, wondering what you missed out on! Go and live your life, have different kinds of experiences, meet people, so that you don’t have FOMO later. Most importantly, this will help you grow as an individual, and figure out what you want!
4. You are not marrying only because it’s the right age
That there is a right age to get married may be one of the biggest deterrents to happy marriages, and happy people. Let me explain, because this life-changing event is often associated with one’s age, many end up getting married either before they are ready, or to the wrong person. Guess what that’s a recipe for? That’s right. Disaster.
5. Or, only due to family pressure
Family pressure is hard to fight, and you may be tempted to give in just to put an end to the constant nagging and pushing. But, you getting married will impact your life every single day. This is not a decision for only your family to make. So, you do it when you are ready, and when you want to!
6. You know what your deal breakers are
As important as it is to know what you want in from your partner, it is also important you know what you don’t want from them. Especially in a marriage! In a marriage, we tend to compromise more than we would in a relationship that is not legally and socially binding. Lest you become a doormat, take time to figure out what you will absolutely not tolerate from your future husband!
7. You understand it’s not going to be all roses
If you feel that living with your SO means that your life will be full of romantic moments, and that you will always look forward to seeing each other, and will never get sick of each other, or any other version of this idealistic idea of marriage, you’re not ready. There will be ups and downs, no matter how wonderful your marriage may be, and unless you accept this, refrain from committing a lifetime to someone.
8. You want a marriage, and not just a wedding
Honestly, answer this: What excites you more? The idea of marriage, or a wedding?